Heartmates
Paul L. Garlington
 
There is an old phrase that says, “As within, so without; as above, so beneath.” Let me add to that, “No change without, before change within.” This phrase should therefore assist you in understanding what is a basic premise of Heartsight: You cannot change your world, you can only change yourself. If and when you change yourself, you of necessity, change your world. So when we say, “as within, so without” we are saying, “the without” always reflects the “within.” In like manner, the “beneath” reflects the “above”. The “above” is the kingdom of perfect everything; the “beneath” (the earth) is the kingdom’s realm of perfect manifestation. Heartsight Lifestyle Training Center is saying, in order to change your lifestyle and see results without, you must change within.

In light of this inescapable reality, there are four absolute essentials for those who are serious about changing their lifestyles and therefore their world. They are as follows:
  1. Heartsight Seminars—In the seminars, we seek to get you unshakably rooted, grounded, settled, and established in the truth of what is. You have to realize that what you think you know is wrong. If you keep faithfully following a certain map, and you’re consistently winding up where you don’t want to be, somebody gave you the wrong map. As you rid yourself of these erroneous old maps, the seminars assist you in getting on the right road in the journey of no distance, returning to a place you never left, becoming what you already are, acquiring what you never lost;
  2. Beracah Groups—This is the place where people of like mind joyfully fellowship around victory reports as a means of encouraging the slack hands and strengthening the weak knees. Those of us who have been participating faithfully in Beracah Groups have discovered that these groups are highly effective in bringing us to a place where we, “wouldn’t take nothin' for our journey now.” They are not sharing or support groups, but rather groups based on fellowship around the truth and the victory reports that inevitably ensue as we walk the talk as well as we talk the walk;
  3. Weekly Accelebrations—This is where we come together in large groups to sing, celebrate, dance, and rejoice in total abandonment to the truth of what is so now. It is where we affirm our commitment to let the wilderness and the desert place resound with our shout of joy. Since the whole earth is full of His glory, nothing remains but to celebrate and luxuriate in this glorious reality. This is our story, and we’re sticking with it;
  4. Heartmates—A heartmate is a covenant friend who shares the path with you of living by Heartsight. He/She is committed to the truth that God is One, and that the whole earth is full of His glory now. A heartmate always speaks the truth in love to his neighbor, thus strengthening his/her friend through righteous judgment.
Having established these necessary prerequisites, let’s take a closer look at heartmates. Some of the most unlikely people can prove to be valuable heartmates. For example, one might say, “Surely, it couldn’t be a mother-in-law, could it?” In fact, have you ever wondered why there seems to be this eternal antipathy towards mothers-in-law? “Anthropologists have traced this peculiar attitude to a taboo that obsessed primitive societies—the ritual practice of mother-in-law avoidance. They believed that one’s mother-in-law presented an ominous threat to be escaped from. Thus they not only avoided her company, but even steered clear of catching a casual glimpse of her. Mother-in-law avoidance became so deeply rooted in the human consciousness that it still survives as a sort of ancestral memory, greatly accounting for the modern phenomenon of mother-in-law aversion.” (Book of Friendship, Dr. R. Brasch) Oddly enough however, it is the relationship between a daughter- and mother-in-law that serves as one of our most perfect and graphic examples of true heartmates (The following verses are from the Book of Ruth 1:1-12).

“Now it came about in the days when the judges governed, that there was a famine in the land. And a certain man of Bethlehem in Judah went to sojourn in the land of Moab with his wife and his two sons. And the name of the man was Elimelech, and the name of his wife, Naomi; and the names of his two sons were Mahlon and Chilion, Ephrathites of Bethlehem in Judah. Now they entered the land of Moab and remained there. Then Elimelech, Naomi’s husband, died; and she was left with her two sons. And they took for themselves Moabite women as wives; the name of the one was Orpah and the name of the other Ruth. And they lived there about ten years. Then both Mahlon and Chilion also died; and the woman was bereft of her two children and her husband. Then she arose with her daughters-in-law that she might return from the land of Moab, for she had heard in the land of Moab that the Lord had visited His people in giving them food.”

Notice what makes Naomi such a desirable heartmate. She is one who recognizes the Lord’s day of visitation and governs herself accordingly. What is visitation? Listen to the Gospel of Luke. “And when He approached, He saw the city and wept over it, saying, ‘If you had known in this day, even you, the things which make for peace! But now they have been hidden from your eyes. For the days shall come upon you when your enemies will throw up a bank before you, and surround you, and hem you in on every side, and will level you to the ground and your children within you, and they will not leave in you one stone upon another, BECAUSE YOU DID NOT RECOGNIZE THE TIME OF YOUR VISITATION.’” (Lk 19:41)

So what is this time of visitation? It is when you have become so conscious of God’s omnipresence that it makes for peace in all of your affairs. It is a time when you see in manifestation the year of God’s favor, glory and goodness. It is the time when all that you could ever need is being gloriously provided for in the presence of the Lord. That is visitation. And so to this end, Naomi tells Ruth and Orpah that she is returning to Judah (i.e., giving all glory, honor and praise exclusively to the One), for then and there, God visits His people.

Continuing, “So she departed from the place where she was, and her two daughters-in-law with her; and they went on the way to return to the land of Judah.” While they are on the way, Naomi says to her two daughters-in-law, “Go, return each of you to her mother’s house.” This is a critical observation. In other words, Naomi is saying, if I can discourage you from taking this journey, I will do so. I and the journey are inseparable. If you are not committed to the journey, you are not committed to me. Hence, you cannot be my heartmate. “Then she kissed them, and they lifted up their voices and wept.” Although they obviously feel deep affection for Naomi, their mother-in-law, this is not enough for this journey. Naomi has been clearly a heartmate to them. However, the critical issue is which one will be a heartmate for Naomi on this journey?

“And they said to her, ‘No, but we will surely return with you to YOUR people.’ ” Orpah and Ruth seem to be doing what scripture instructs when it says, “Listen, O daughter, give attention and incline your ear; forget your people and your father’s house; Then the King will desire your beauty; Because He is your Lord, bow down to Him. And the daughter of Tyre will come with a gift; the rich among the people will entreat your favor.”

But Naomi is relentless. “Return, my daughters. Why should you go with me? Have I yet sons in my womb, that they may be your husbands? Return, my daughters! Go, for I am too old to have a husband. If I said I have hope, if I should even have a husband tonight and also bear sons, would you therefore wait until they were grown? Would you therefore refrain from marrying? No, my daughters; for it is harder for me than for you, for the hand of the Lord has gone forth against me.” Please notice that while Naomi’s love for them is so great that she calls them her daughters instead of her daughters-in-law, this is not enough to sustain them for the journey. Hence, the process of discouraging them, if she can, from taking the journey will reveal the presence or absence of commitment to the journey. It is for this reason that Naomi is so relentless.

And so again, “...They lifted up their voices and wept again; and Orpah kissed her mother-in-law...” Now although Naomi called them her daughters, please observe what Orpah did. “[She] kissed her mother-in-law..,” and aborted the journey. Ruth however clung to Naomi. At which point, Naomi continues with Ruth the same process of, “If I can discourage you, I will in order to determine whether I have in you a true heartmate or if I must travel alone.” Therefore Naomi says to Ruth, “Behold, your sister-in-law has gone back to her people and her gods; return after your sister-in-law.”

Orpah represents one of our greatest areas of confusion about a heartmate. It is the tendency to blur the distinction between the affection one feels for you with a commitment to the journey. So much pain could be avoided if we would just face, once and for all, this bias in ourselves. To be sure, Orpah certainly loves Naomi, and weeps profusely over the thought of separation, but is still able to be dissuaded from the journey. All too often, we find ourselves in relationships that are long on affection, and short on commitment and respect. In the absence of commitment to the One that is nonnegotiable, affection soon degenerates to resentment and contempt. Therefore affection alone is not enough for one to qualify as a heartmate. There will be times that a true heartmate may seem, to the ego, to be totally lacking in affection because of his/her commitment to be faithful to the truth. A true heartmate will, if necessary, be your beloved enemy in order to rejoice with you in your liberation. Therefore those who have eyes to see and ears to hear receive the divine wounding as ointment upon their head, and thank God upon every remembrance of their faithful heartmate.

On the other hand, Ruth has more than affection for Naomi. She is a true heartmate who cannot be discouraged in the journey or encouraged to leave the journey. On the spiritual path, we are committed to do absolutely nothing to motivate people to want truth. In fact, if we can discourage you, we will. “When the pupil is ready, the teacher will come.” We do not proselytize. To paraphrase the words of Jesus, “It is only the self-righteous who proselytize, and after having done so, make them twice as much a son of hell as themselves.” And so Ruth is like the Canaanite woman referred to in the Gospels. “And behold a Canaanite woman came out from that region, and began to cry out, saying, ‘Have mercy on me, O Lord, Son of David; my daughter is cruelly demon-possessed.’” You can hear the passion, urgency, and desperation in her voice. But Jesus is not moved by urgency or desperation. Why? Because there are a lot of people who are desperate, but not enough to actually hear and act upon the truth. “But He did not answer her a word (Obstacle #1). And His disciples (Obstacle #2) came to Him and kept asking Him, saying, ‘Send her away, for she is shouting out after us.’ But He answered and said, ‘I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel (Obstacle #3).”

Given these three obstacles, is the Canaanite woman discouraged? Absolutely not, as evidenced by her actions and response, “...She came and began to bow down before Him, saying, ‘Lord, help me!’ And He answered and said, ‘It is not good to take the children’s bread and throw it to the dogs. (Obstacle #4).’”

Now, how many of you at this point, would have used all types of descriptive phrasing to assist Jesus in understanding what HE COULD DO NEXT? But this woman was not insulted, offended, discouraged or otherwise swayed. She had one intent and one intent only. The thought of leaving without what she came for was inconceivable to her. Hence her most eloquent response to Jesus was, “Yes, Lord; but even the dogs feed on the crumbs which fall from their master’s table.”

In other words, she is declaring that, “Sooner or later, you are going to have to feed the children, and some crumbs inevitably will fall off the table. I’m waiting for one of those crumbs. That one crumb will be more than sufficient for my daughter’s deliverance. Like Gideon’s men who were willing to lap water like a dog, I will lick up the crumbs like a dog. There is nothing you can do, Jesus, to discourage me or make me leave without what I came for.”

“THEN Jesus answered and said to her, ‘O woman, your faith is great; be it done for you as you wish.’ And her daughter was healed at once.” It is this type of persistence that characterizes Ruth, a true heartmate.

Returning to our original reference, when Naomi presented Orpah with “obstacles,” though she had tears in her eyes, she still kissed her “mother-in-law” good-bye. “But Ruth said, ‘Do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried.”’ Ruth is not only committed to Naomi, but to Naomi’s journey, and thus qualifies as a true heartmate.

And what are the blessed consequences of being a true heartmate? “And Boaz [who was of the family of Elimelech]...said to her, ‘All that you have done for your mother-in-law after the death of your husband has been fully reported to me, and how you left your father and your mother and the land of your birth, and came to a people that you did not previously know. May the Lord reward your work, and your wages be full from the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to seek refuge.’” (Ruth 2:11,12)

Why was Ruth clinging so tenaciously to Naomi? According to scripture, she is seeking refuge under God’s wings. She is demonstrating that the most effective way to accomplish that objective is to cling to the one who knows the One. “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say to the Lord, ‘My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust!’ For it is He who delivers you from the snare of the trapper, and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover you with His pinions, and under His wings you may seek refuge; His faithfulness is a shield and bulwark. You will not be afraid of the terror by night, or of the arrow that flies by day; of the pestilence that stalks in darkness, or of the destruction that lays waste at noon. A thousand may fall at your side, and ten thousand at your right hand; but it shall not approach you. You will only look on with your eyes, and see the recompense of the wicked. For you have made the Lord, my refuge, even the Most High, your dwelling place. No evil will befall you. Nor will any plague come near your tent.” (Ps 91:1-10)

Ruth’s example is reminiscent of the words of Zechariah who declared, “In those days ten men from the nations of every language (Gentiles like Ruth) will grasp the garment of a Jew saying, ‘Let us go with you for we have heard that God is with you.’” (Zech 8:23) “For he is not a Jew who is one outwardly; neither is circumcision that which is outward in the flesh. But he is a Jew who is one inwardly; and circumcision is that which is of the heart, by the Spirit, not by the letter; and his praise is not from men, but from God.” (Rom 2:28, 29) Because Ruth clung to Naomi, her journey eventuated in her marriage to Boaz, and it was from the lineage of Ruth and Boaz that both King David and Jesus Christ descended. In other words, it was a journey that lead to union with the One, resulting in the consciousness of the presence of God that includes the realization of every good and perfect gift.

Truly indeed, awesome things happen when heartmates dwell together in unity.

 
 

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